Are you contacts on your SIM card ore SD Card on the Galaxy Note? If so, import them onto the phone's memory. I've heard this has resolved problems for some people.
Another thing, though it probably shouldn't matter, is you probably should update to the latest supported OS. AT&T updated to ICS on the SGHi717 last year (and that's an i not a 1
I've heard of people in BMW's needing to pair, then turn off their cars, then turn it back on to allow it to natural pair, in which case it asks if you want it to give BT access to the phone.